Where Do We Get Negativity?

Where do we get negativity?

Negativity is very rampant in the American society. A child growing up is constantly exposed to it. The first word a child learns is “NO”. When a child starts to explore parents will say:

• “No, don’t play with that it’s dangerous”
• “No, that is not a toy”
• “No, you can’t go by yourself, hold my hand”
• “No, don’t put that in your mouth it’s dirty”

Of course, the parent is protecting the child, but talks to the child in a negative way.

Then the school reinforces this negative thinking. The teachers correct paper work by showing how many were missed, not that the child was able to understand the parts that were correct.

The busy parent will say things like:

• “Why are you so dumb that you can’t to do math?”
• “Another bad grade what’s wrong with you?”
• “You got a “C”!, but over looks the two “A’s” and the three “B’s”
• “Your sister is so smart what happened to you?”

How can a child learn how to be positive if constantly confronted by negativity?

All of these negative talks become implanted into the child’s subconscious mind, the part of the brain that is hidden and uncontrolled by the conscious mind.

Since things in the subconscious are taken as true, the child doesn’t have the ability to accept or reject things that are imprinted. Here they stay to influence how the child acts and thinks as an adult. After all, it is where we store our beliefs and value judgments that we use to view the world
around us.

The local news station always talks about negative things with very few stories of positive things that happen. When asked why, the main reply was, “that is what people want to hear”. Could it be that the people are so use to the negative that something positive is now foreign to them?

Is it surprising that most adults have negative self-talk?

When things go wrong a person will say to themselves:

• “Nice thing you did there dummy”
• “What a stupid thing I did!”
• “Leave it to me to get it wrong”

Have you ever heard things like these in your head?

The first step to changing them is being aware that they are there. As an adult you can judge how unreasonable and irrational they are.

Start talking back to those thoughts. Use positive words and don’t be afraid. When you hear that you made a mistake, remember what you learned from the mistake. Humans make mistakes because we are able to think and improve things. The main idea is to learn from the mistakes so you don’t repeat them again.

Belittling yourself with negativity will only keep you from making corrections and reaching your full potential!.